a friend ship

Friend ships come in many shapes and sizes. At one end of the spectrum are the ones that come in the same shape and are made in the same size. They are the limited editions; the ones whose influences have shaped you, is shaping you, and may be shaping you for a long time to come. These are the kinds of friendships that will last for a long time because the commitment and the chemistry are both present.

At the other end are the mismatched ones, the ones that are in different shapes and sizes. You may have had enjoyable moments with them but they will never be a significant part of your life. They are the ones that will be relegated to the back of your mind when you meet new friends, destined to be friends only as long as opportunities keep your interaction alive. Commitment is rare, chemistry even more so.

Now comes the tricky ones, the ones with the same shapes but come in different sizes, as well as the ones with the same sizes but formed in different shapes.

A friend ship that has the same shape but different size is a friendship blessed with chemistry, yet it is also one that fails to realize its potential. These are the friends whom you have the most memorable times with, the ones whom you have a lot of things in common with. But they are also the ones whom you have never really had a conversation with about your lives and the deeper issues in life, the ones who fades with the reduced frequency of meetings. Chemistry is there, but commitment is, sadly, not.

Finally, those that are of the same size but come in different shapes. They may not be fortunate to share an innate chemistry with one another but they are more than willing to build on shared experiences and past memories to sustain the friendship for a long time to come. Chemistry may come in small doses, but commitment more than makes up for it.

At the end of the day, the friend ships that will stay in your harbour the longest are the ones with the same size, the friends who are committed to the friendship. They are the ones who will pester you to have occasional lunches with them and keep them abreast of events in your life, the friends whom you are comfortable talking about anything with anytime at anywhere.

They are the friends whom you can speak to even in the medium of silence.