Marriage & Diligence

what does being hardworking have to do with marriage? does it mean that being more diligent will find us our perfect match sooner? or does being lazy accentuate the possibility of being single?

certainly, the correlation between marriage and diligence is not something one would think of, as such, an analysis of the possible impact these seemly disparate entities have on each other might be interesting.

in this world, there are millions of people out there who are seeking love, searching for their 'true one'. we are attracted to people who display characteristics that are complementary to ours, or in the much vaunted phrase that many believe in, 'chemistry' is the key ingredient to initial attraction. however, to sustain this liking towards one another, we need more than chemistry. we need compatibility.

so what's the difference between chemistry and compatibility? well, chemistry may be the imagined qualities that people invest much faith and hope in to secure a long-lasting relationship, but compatibility, on the other hand, refers to something more tangible. compatibility is the willingness to make an effort to sustain a relationship. no two people in the world are identical, and thus friction is an inherent element of relationships. to borrow the force from friction and drive us forward instead of allowing it to break shared bonds down, we have to be hardworking.

and finally! we bring in the factor of diligence. we must face up to reality and know that there is no muse that will automatically keep relationships intact. we ourselves must make the extra effort to create lasting memories, organize memorable events, and constantly keep the passion of love alive and burning.

so how does this relate to being hardworking NOW? haha a lazy person will most probably be lazy even after marraige. a hardworking person will most probably remain hardworking after marriage. do you see the link now? such mindsets and attitude takes time to nurture. if we can afford to be lazy for something as important as A levels, we will most probably rationalise with ourselves and remain lazy after marriage.

for singles, it is even more important to be hardworking! diligence engender opportunities. opportunities beget friendships. friendships widen social networks. and these social networks will allow the singles to find their 'perfect match'! haha certainly, it's easier said than done. but being hardworking will definitely bring you to places where people's disposition and character are more aligned to your preferences. therefore, it's time to buck up people!

having shown how marriage and diligence share a subtle but intimate relationship, one must emphasize that correlation is not causation. it doesn't mean that being more hardworking will ensure a better marriage or relationship. however, diligence still hold great value and worth. after all, if you are not even willing to work hard for your relationship, then nothing else really matters.

because it will all fall apart eventually.