good boys like good girls. or do they?

Light yourself on fire—become interesting to yourself. What makes people interesting is being curious about and interested in things and developing those interests to the point of passion. That fire draws others to you. What’s more, it turns your attention outward, so that you are not anxiously focused on your own performance. Yes, it’s true: Women increasingly want sweetness and understanding in their men—but not at the expense of interests, competence and good old self-confidence.
PsychologyToday

that's a recent question i posed to a few of my frens and i've received several interesting responses, to say the least. at first, my frens and i have assumed that the statement, "good boys like good girls. good girls like good boys", is definitely true, seeing how girls have been portrayed to be attracted towards the sweeter guys. moreover, good boys have been depicted to be stickers for rules, so it would only be natural for them to gravitate towards good girls.

however, this assumption got shattered last night. haha, i was told that good girls like bad boys, because good boys are usually unromantic and uninteresting. it seems like girls, no matter 'good' or 'bad', are drawn towards interesting guys. actually, the same could said of guys. then again, the same could be said of everyone.

everyone likes to be around someone interesting, someone who fascinates them, someone who can intrigue them. as we all know, the first kind of attraction between a guy and a girl is usually the physical kind. raw and superficial outward appearance. after that, what's needed to sustain this interest is something definitely more innate - like our character, personality, etc...

eventually, it's too simplistic and assuming to place anyone in the overarching generalizations of 'good' and 'bad'. everyone falls between this spectrum and can never be strictly classified under either extremes. just because a girl clubs doesn't immediately make her 'bad', even though school-based culture seems to perpetuate such misleading mindsets. after all, her true intentions behind this seemingly 'bad' activity could be really to socialise. the same goes for a guy who mugs a lot. does studying a lot automatically place one under the 'good' category? what if the guy is studying how to be a successful terrorist? lol. yup, intention of an act is the most important criteria for judgement, not the act itself.

haha somehow this reminds me of harry potter and the argument between 'light' and 'dark' spells. xD

somehow today turned into a please-rest-and-relax-nick! day. after trying to stuff tons of nonsense on political structure into my much-saturated sponge of a brain, i've decided to just stop and take a break. some may find it irresponsible, but i can care less about the judgement of others. the promos are certainly important, but reducing your life span for your examination doesn't seem like a good trade-off to me. haha, and of course, it's a good excuse to do the things i like.

mmm and today i had a few conversations with old friends. it was great talking nonsense and serious stuff. dear friend! you seem to have lost faith in the stability of boy-girl relationships! i hope that i'll be able to influence your doom-and-gloom mindset with my positive fairytale notions in the future! =p

and to another dear friend, please take care! hope you'll find a solution to your hypothetical problem soon. and meanwhile, if i can be of any help, just say it, and it will be yours =)

So tell me can this really work?
Or will we end up getting hurt?
Is this love...
Or myth?
The Reason Why - The Click Five